Free Food for the Community Programme, 1971, Oakland. Photograph by Stephen Shames
You ever wonder how things would be different if old Lil Kim stayed how she was?
Kim G talks Tunic and feminist self-worth.
What’s behind the song “Tunic (Song for Karen),” from Sonic Youth’s 1990 album, Goo?
I wanted to put Karen Carpenter [who died of anorexia] up in heaven playing drums and being happy. This whole thing about teenage girls cutting themselves and that being associated with anorexia and girls being conditioned to having such a big desire to please – I’m just curious, because of Coco, at what point do girls start getting their sense of self-worth and [need to please] people, and why don’t they have anything else?
Happy 60th birthday Kim Gordon! Read our 1997 Q&A with the Godmother of Grunge where she talks about feminism in rock.
Ladies Mixtape Club: An Original Riot Grrrl Mix by Jes! -
Jes Skolnik writes a monthly column for Maximum Rocknroll called ‘Modernist Witch,’ and is a union organizer, as well as being in two different bands (Population and Split Feet). Originally from DC and an old riot grrrl, they made this mix of other female/femme-fronted bands for…
In my ongoing quest for the perfect framework for understanding haters, I created The Disapproval Matrix**. (With a deep bow to its inspiration.) This is one way to separate haterade from productive feedback. Here’s how the quadrants break down:
Critics: These are smart people who know something about your field. They are taking a hard look at your work and are not loving it. You’ll probably want to listen to what they have to say, and make some adjustments to your work based on their thoughtful comments.
Lovers: These people are invested in you and are also giving you negative but rational feedback because they want you to improve. Listen to them, too.
Frenemies: Ooooh, this quadrant is tricky. These people really know how to hurt you, because they know you personally or know your work pretty well. But at the end of the day, their criticism is not actually about your work—it’s about you personally. And they aren’t actually interested in a productive conversation that will result in you becoming better at what you do. They just wanna undermine you. Dishonorable mention goes to The Hater Within, aka the irrational voice inside you that says you suck, which usually falls into this quadrant. Tell all of these fools to sit down and shut up.
Haters: This is your garden-variety, often anonymous troll who wants to tear down everything about you for no rational reason. Folks in this quadrant are easy to write off because they’re counterproductive and you don’t even know them. Ignore! Engaging won’t make you any better at what you do. And then rest easy, because having haters is proof your work is finding a wide audience and is sparking conversation. Own it.
The general rule of thumb? When you receive negative feedback that falls into one of the top two quadrants—from experts or people who care about you who are engaging with and rationally critiquing your work—you should probably take their comments to heart. When you receive negative feedback that falls into the bottom two quadrants, you should just let it roll off your back and just keep doin’ you. If you need to amp yourself up about it, may I suggest this #BYEHATER playlist on Spotify? You’re welcome.
** I presented The Disapproval Matrix to the fine folks at MoxieCon in Chicago yesterday, and they seemed to find it useful, so I figured I’d share with the class. It was originally inspired by a question my friend Channing Kennedy submitted to my #Realtalk column at the Columbia Journalism Review.
I would like to start a band with Ann Friedman entitled “Lesser Rappers”.
Lexie strikes a pose.
Mark Richardson: To make the wider point here, what we take to be the female... -
To make the wider point here, what we take to be the female professions—child care, social work, nursing, the creation and care of culture, the ministry, teaching (these last, when done by men, being done by effete men, as Vice President Spiro Agnew told us)—all contain a greater admixture of…
Five female songwriters who were influential in early jazz -
Oxford Press has a run down that spans from Billie to Irene Higginbotham (“Good Morning Heartache”) and crucial cuts play list.
Daddy Rock Star: Susan Rogers on Prince's Sign O’ The Times (Part 2 of 3) -
Part two of my interview with Susan Rogers begins with the story behind the recording of the song “The Ballad of Dorothy Parker.” Prince commissioned engineer Frank De Medio to custom-build a recording console for his home studio–the same type of console that De Medio built for Sunset Sound in Los…